Toxic Relationships - It's More Fun In Da Pelepens!

It's really stupid how some Filipinos themselves tend to be stuck with having the wrong kind of sympathy. There's the problem where some Filipinos tend to think that they're "less Filipino" unless they stand by their fellow Filipino no matter what. This leads to the problem of Filipinos getting stuck with toxic relationships whether it'd be friendship, a romantic relationship, or marriage. What's the reason? It's because of the three Ks - kapatid (sibling), kaibigan (friend), and kamag-anak (relatives) that you must defend them or stand by them no matter what.

It reminds me of how I really got so mad about dealing with someone for the nth time. I told that person that I might consider kicking her out of the area. She keeps on uttering her "beloved" partner because they've been friends for a long time. What's more important? Her fair-weathered friend or the trust issue? Why continue having business with someone you know who's very TOXIC with you? A true partner in your business will always agree to do their fair share. If the person is known to be a free-rider then why even endure it? Worse, she answers that she's feeling sorry for her partner because the latter already invested in a huge capital. I told her that it's no longer mercy but mendicancy or giving to beggars. I guess she valued her "friendship" more than trust and relationships - even when that person can't be trusted anymore!

Marie Kondo has some advice that many Filipinos who hoard relatives who leech on them. According to Kondo, the best advice is to throw out relatives who are becoming unnecessary burdens. It's when friends become FIENDS and when relatives become rela-THIEVES that you need to see these people are TOXIC. True friendship is based on giving and taking and not just one without the other. If you value family then you ought to teach these leeches how to stop being leeches even if it means kicking them out. Only if more Overseas Filipino Workers (OFWs) followed Kondo's advice then I think less of them would have stayed poor. By ignoring such helpful advice - they have doomed themselves to staying perpetually poor. Also, some have gone as stupid as to be earning average income yet they're raising their relatives (such as a lazy nephew) out of sympathy which has mutated into mendicancy. 

This is also one reason why I want to get rid of the 4Ps program PERMANENTLY. The conditions attached to it have become more and more ignored. Instead, 4Ps has become a program where poor people are just waiting for a shower of gold coins. If you want to get the poor out of poverty - it's all about JOB CREATIONS which is more possible under capitalism. 4Ps is also encouraging a toxic relationship between the government and less fortunate Filipinos. People keep wasting the money they receive from 4Ps yet the government still keeps giving it to them out of pity. I guess allowing 4Ps has made people even more involved in toxic relationships than before.

Truth is the idea that we don't leave anybody behind is stupid. It doesn't matter what economic boom there is. If you don't take the job opportunities given then you will be left behind to rot in your stupidity. Either you get out of your stupidity or rot in it. The same can go for toxic relationships. If that friend or relative of yours isn't doing their part then cut off ties and let them learn to stand on their own two feet!